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Do you know that many of us women cannot forgive ourselves for something we have done in the past? We view and judge our mistakes to be the most horrible things that we could ever do and this can keep us separated from God.
Unforgiveness occurs when we are unwilling or unable to forgive ourselves, having or making no allowance for error or weakness.
We carry this horrible pain of regret, even grief towards ourselves and it’s hard for us to receive the grace that God has already given us.
God's Grace
God has given us a certain amount of grace to cover us throughout our lifetime.
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”
The root of Grace means: tenderness, gentleness, loveliness; favor, kindness, attractiveness, beauty, splendor, gracious
Do you know what sufficient means? It means “Enough”.
So what this scripture is saying is My tenderness, my gentleness, my kindness, my favor is enough for you. My power is made perfect in weakness.
God’s grace is enough for us to carry on. In our weakest moments, in our weakest hour, God is Enough, period.
When we carry unforgiveness towards ourselves, it brings the opposite of tenderness and gentleness. It brings a lot of torment and what we fail to recognize is that we are placing self-inflicted wounds upon ourselves.
Self-Inflicted Wounds
What is a self-inflicted wound? A Self-Inflicted wound or injury is one that you do to yourself deliberately. It’s something that you purposely do or purposely receive.
Do we really want to wound ourselves? No, but it's choice! We can make a choice to receive the grace of God and forgive ourselves, moving on, learning from our mistakes. Or, we can choice to stay imprisoned in the mind by holding on to the memories and the pain.
There are three words tied to "Unforgiveness"
1) Unforgettable
2) Unforgivable
3) Unforgiving
I don’t know if you know this, but this promotes self-hatred.
Self-Hatred
We may not understand the symptoms of self-hatred right away but we become extremely disappointed in ourselves and I can see why these three words are tied to unforgiveness because we can’t forget the things that what we have done. It plays in our minds over and over and we just can’t forgive ourselves for what we have allowed to take place in our lives. It’s a constant torment making us to feel so unworthy.
What is Self-Hatred?
Self-hatred (also called self-hate, self-loathing) is dislike or hatred of oneself, or being angry at or even prejudiced against oneself.
The term "self-hatred" is used to describe people who hate themselves, people with low self-esteem.[1] Self-hatred is also tied to self-guilt and shame. Self-hatred promotes depression and is also linked to guilt for someone's own actions that they view as wrongful, e.g., survivor guilt.
Let me ask you a question. Have ever seen or experience yourself covering your eyes and face with your hands? What is that? That’s shame and condemnation but scriptures say
Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus
Ladies, once we allow for the spirit of God to rest upon us, this unforgiveness would not be deeply rooted in us. Why? We would know that Christ came to forgive us from our sins.
In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace
All the prophets testify about him that everyone who believes in him receives forgiveness of sins through his name.”
“Therefore, my friends, I want you to know that through Jesus the forgiveness of sins is proclaimed to you.
through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we boast in the hope of the glory of God.
There's so much more to this message but tonight, by Faith, let us stand in God’s grace, let us work on forgiving ourselves. Scriptures tells us that Grace is a gift from God. He has freely given you tenderness, kindness, gentleness, favor.
If we reject the grace of God, {unaware} we are saying that God is not enough. We’re saying God I want to hold on to this guilt and shame even though you want me to walk out of this prison cell, I’m going to stay here because I deserve it.
You deserve to be free. This is the good news of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. God's grace is enough for your life.
Be blessed.
Rev. Kathryn Gore
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